Wildcard Wednesday

I was reading an article the other day about signs of an emotional affair and I ran across this list that I want to share with you. This is a list of signs that your relationship with a friend has evolved into an emotional affair. Please read through the list and be honest about your relationships.

I wish I would have know more about emotional affairs before I was married. I wish I would have had a list that would have shown me where my friendship was slipping into an affair. My friendship hit every single one of these signs. I was blinded by the enemy and never saw it coming until it was too late.

 You can find more about this list from:  http://www.emotionalaffair.org/emotional-affair-signs/. 

 

So how do you know if a relationship has evolved into an emotional affair?

• When most meetings and conversations are kept secret from your partner.

• When you say and do things with someone you never would do in front of your spouse.

• When you make a point to arrange private talk time with them.

• When you share stuff with them that you don’t with your partner.

• You are withdrawing from your spouse.

• You are preoccupied and daydream about your friend more and more.

• You are not interested in being intimate with your spouse, either emotionally or sexually.

• The amount of time you and your spouse spend together is less.

• When confronted about the apparent emotional affair, you respond, “We’re just friends.”

• You find yourself anticipating when you can communicate or be with your friend again. Alone time together is important to you.

• You are sharing your thoughts, feelings, and problems with your friend instead of your spouse.

• You find reasons to give your friend personal gifts.

• Your friend seems to understand you better than your spouse does.

• You are keeping your friendship a secret from your spouse, or you no longer feel comfortable telling your spouse about this person and begin to cover up your relationship.

• You touch your  friend in “legal” ways, like patting him on the shoulder or picking lint off of his shirt.

• You pay extra attention to how you look before you see him.

• Think crush-like thoughts like, He’d love this song!

• Tell him more details about your day than you do your partner.

• You experience increasing sexual tension; you admit your attraction to him but also insist to yourself that you would never act on it.