I was reading an article the other day about signs of an emotional affair and I ran across this list that I want to share with you. This is a list of signs that your relationship with a friend has evolved into an emotional affair. Please read through the list and be honest about your relationships.
I wish I would have know more about emotional affairs before I was married. I wish I would have had a list that would have shown me where my friendship was slipping into an affair. My friendship hit every single one of these signs. I was blinded by the enemy and never saw it coming until it was too late.
You can find more about this list from: http://www.emotionalaffair.org/emotional-affair-signs/.
So how do you know if a relationship has evolved into an emotional affair?
- When most meetings and conversations are kept secret from your partner.
- When you say and do things with someone you never would do in front of your spouse.
- When you make a point to arrange private talk time with them.
- When you share stuff with them that you don’t with your partner.
- You are withdrawing from your spouse.
- You are preoccupied and daydream about your friend more and more.
- You are not interested in being intimate with your spouse, either emotionally or sexually.
- The amount of time you and your spouse spend together is less.
- When confronted about the apparent emotional affair, you respond, “We’re just friends.”
- You find yourself anticipating when you can communicate or be with your friend again. Alone time together is important to you.
- You are sharing your thoughts, feelings, and problems with your friend instead of your spouse.
- You find reasons to give your friend personal gifts.
- Your friend seems to understand you better than your spouse does.
- You are keeping your friendship a secret from your spouse, or you no longer feel comfortable telling your spouse about this person and begin to cover up your relationship.
- You touch your friend in “legal” ways, like patting him on the shoulder or picking lint off of his shirt.
- You pay extra attention to how you look before you see him.
- Think crush-like thoughts like, He’d love this song!
- Tell him more details about your day than you do your partner.
- You experience increasing sexual tension; you admit your attraction to him but also insist to yourself that you would never act on it.