Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Wildcard Wednesday

I was reading an article the other day about signs of an emotional affair and I ran across this list that I want to share with you. This is a list of signs that your relationship with a friend has evolved into an emotional affair. Please read through the list and be honest about your relationships.

I wish I would have know more about emotional affairs before I was married. I wish I would have had a list that would have shown me where my friendship was slipping into an affair. My friendship hit every single one of these signs. I was blinded by the enemy and never saw it coming until it was too late.

 You can find more about this list from:  http://www.emotionalaffair.org/emotional-affair-signs/. 

 

So how do you know if a relationship has evolved into an emotional affair?

  • When most meetings and conversations are kept secret from your partner.
  • When you say and do things with someone you never would do in front of your spouse.
  • When you make a point to arrange private talk time with them.
  • When you share stuff with them that you don’t with your partner.
  • You are withdrawing from your spouse.
  • You are preoccupied and daydream about your friend more and more.
  • The amount of time you and your spouse spend together is less.
  • When confronted about the apparent emotional affair, you respond, “We’re just friends.”
  • You find yourself anticipating when you can communicate or be with your friend again. Alone time together is important to you.
  • You are sharing your thoughts, feelings, and problems with your friend instead of your spouse.
  • You find reasons to give your friend personal gifts.
  • Your friend seems to understand you better than your spouse does.
  • You are keeping your friendship a secret from your spouse, or you no longer feel comfortable telling your spouse about this person and begin to cover up your relationship.
  • You touch your  friend in “legal” ways, like patting him on the shoulder or picking lint off of his shirt.
  • You pay extra attention to how you look before you see him.
  • Think crush-like thoughts like, He’d love this song!
  • Tell him more details about your day than you do your partner.
  • You experience increasing sexual tension; you admit your attraction to him but also insist to yourself that you would never act on it.

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